HOW TO PUT ON A CHASTITY CAGE
It’s finally time. You bought a brand new cock cage, and you’re ready to give chastity play a try. Only the cage arrives looking like one of those mind game puzzles with zero instructions, and you’re left feeling like being chaste requires a cryptic adventure to even try it. So let me help: let’s go over how to put on a chastity cage with most of the common ball trap device styles.
(Ball-trap cock cages are the most common type of cage. They have a large ring at the base that fastens underneath the heft of the testicles with a protruding shaft cage that contains the shaft of the penis. They do not have any belt or harness that wraps around the hips.)
So let’s do it. Let’s talk about how to put on a chastity cage:
Step 1: Know How Your Cage Works
Learning how your chastity cage fits together while simultaneously putting it on for the first time is like trying to learn how to make a complicated dinner while reading the recipe for the first time. You’re going to quickly find out you need something you don’t have.
That’s the case with learning how to put on a chastity cage, too.
Before it ever touches your cock, hold it in your hands. Most cages arrive fully assembled; slowly take it apart, paying attention to how each piece fits together as you do.
Once it’s fully pulled apart, put it together in your hands. See how it all fits together, and figure out where the difficult/sticking points might be.
Many cock cages offer adjustable pieces as well. For example, the Golden Chalice Chastity Cage has 3 separate base ring sizes. Hold the cock cage up to your own penis and scrotum and see which pieces you think would fit your body best. (You may need to readjust after putting it on, but it helps to have a starter idea!)
While you’re here, run your fingers along the inside of your chastity cage to check for sharp surfaces. Some of the cheaper chastity cages have horrendous quality control, and the last thing you want to do is find that out with your penis.
Step 2: Get Soft
You might chuckle, but this is perhaps the trickiest step in this whole list.
Turns out, if you're intrigued by the idea of wearing a chastity cage, you might find yourself getting excited just by looking at the cage.
Unfortunately, the cages don't fit well (or at all) when you're not relaxed down there.
It's a funny situation (especially from the perspective of femdom).
Try to make sure you're fully soft; that's the best way to put on the cage with the least trouble, but managing that can also be quite a challenge.
To tackle this issue, people who enjoy chastity have tried various approaches like:
- Putting on a chastity cage right after your last orgasm.
- Thinking of non-sexy things.
- Placing the chastity cage in the fridge (not the freezer!) to provide instant cold when it touches the skin.
- Using a bag of frozen vegetables on the shaft to encourage softening.
Step 3: Use Lube on Your Penis, Balls, and Cage
Dry skin doesn't glide smoothly. If it's dry, it's much easier to accidentally pinch, which I assure you, you don't want to do to your sensitive areas.
We solve this by simply applying some lubricant.
You can use water-based or silicone-based lube. Oil-based is also compatible with most chastity cages, but it might not be so kind to the clothes you put on over it (as it can leave stains on fabrics).
Many experienced chastity device wearers prefer silicone-based lube because it lasts a long time after the initial application.
However, it's also much slipperier, and it's harder to clean up if you use too much. For beginners, I'd recommend starting with a water-based lube. Then, if you use too much, you can simply wipe it off with a towel.
When you're ready, use your chosen lube on your fingers to coat your entire penis and balls. After that, use your fingers to spread the lube on the inside of the chastity cage.
While you're learning how to put on a chastity cage, I suggest washing your hands with soap and water before moving forward. This can make it easier to handle the cage in the following steps.
(Pro tip: You can also wear a disposable glove while applying the lube and then take it off to have a dry hand underneath.)
Step 4: Put the Balls In
Your chastity cage probably came with a ring of some kind. This ring goes under the balls and uses them to secure the rest of the device onto your body.
How this ring fits under your testicles will differ depending on your device, but almost all ball trap devices start by getting that ring in place.
If your ring has a flexible part, you might be able to open it, place it gently under the testicles, and then close it around the base. This is for those who have fancier chastity cages.
However, for most cages, you'll have a solid, rigid ring that needs to slide under the testicles like a firm cock ring.
This involves slowly, patiently, and carefully passing the testicles through the ring, one at a time. Begin with the testicle that hangs lower for you and gently push it through the ring.
Once the first one is through, guide the second testicle (if you have one!) through the ring.
Usually, the extra scrotum skin can get in the way of this snug fit, so I suggest moving your skin as you go, gently pulling it through the ring as well. While gently pulling your scrotal sac through the ring, you'll notice a point where the second testicle just sort of slips in because the skin guides it along.
(This is often the trickiest part of learning how to put on a chastity cage. Don't get too frustrated if it takes time. It gets easier after this step.)
Be cautious when passing your balls through. You can harm your testicles. My submissive partner injured his vas deferens by trying to rush through this step. Approach this with patience. If it's too tight to fit comfortably now, come back to it later. No chastity cage is worth multiple urologist visits and months of testicle discomfort.
Once in place, the ring should fit snugly but not too tight around the balls. You want it to anchor the rest of the cage well, but it shouldn't be as tight as a typical cock ring. We're not aiming for erection maintenance through blood flow restriction while wearing a chastity cage.
Expect this step to take at least 5 minutes.
Step 5: Move to the Shaft Cage
With the base ring in place, you're ready to add the rest of the cage – the actual "cage" that goes over the shaft.
In most chastity cages, this is really as straightforward as it sounds. Insert your lubricated shaft into the lubricated cage and watch it slide into position.
However, in many cases, your erection might be in the way. All the handling of the balls (and successfully putting on the base ring!) could lead to an erection, and you can't fit an erect penis into the chastity cage. Sorry.
If that's the case, just wait around, using the same steps as before, until your penis becomes flaccid again. Depending on how snug your base ring is, this might take longer than usual if the ring is slightly restricting.
Once your soft shaft is ready, hold the empty shaft cage at the tip, gently pulling it onto the shaft. Simultaneously, use your fingers to gently guide the soft material of your flaccid penis into the cage. If you can align the head of your penis with the tip of the cage (including the urination hole) as you go, even better!
Once the shaft cage touches the base ring at the bottom, you're good to proceed.
If the shaft cage doesn't touch the base ring at the bottom, a few issues might be at play:
- You're still erect. Chastity cages are designed to fit when you're at your softest state. Not "almost freezing in an ice bath" small, but "comfortably sitting at work with no sexual thoughts" small. Even a semi-erection can make it impossible to properly fit the cage. Again, sorry.
- You need more lube. If your cock cage or penis isn't lubricated enough, it can be hard to fully slide the shaft into the bottom of the cage – especially when your fingers can't reach all the way down. Try using more lube.
- You're not pulling enough. The shaft cage is meant to be snug. It should compress the penis shaft a bit when pulled against the base ring. It shouldn't just hang with a cage on it. Expect some compression (that's the idea!).
- It's the wrong cage size. You might have the wrong-sized cage. Many newcomers to chastity try several cages at the beginning – even up to 15! If a completely flaccid shaft doesn't fit in the cage you have, you might need a cage with a longer shaft measurement. There's nothing wrong with that. Every person's genitals are unique, and this size might not be the right fit for you.
Step 6: Attach the Cage to the Base Ring
You're finally ready to connect those two pieces and create a single "cage"! This is where cock cages can become quite unique, and most cages have their own distinctive way of securing the pieces together, which can make giving advice a bit challenging.
Fortunately, your personal experience should come in handy here. Since you took the time to assemble and disassemble the cage when it first arrived, you should have a general idea of how to get the two parts to fit together.
Simply pull the shaft cage snugly against your body and attach the two parts together. In most cases, this involves sliding a plastic or metal piece into place to hold the two parts together.
In the example below, you can see a plastic fastener (in the center of the cage) that slides through both the ring and the cage. A lock threads through a hole in the tip of the fastener to keep the cock cage secured.
Step 7: Lock the Cage
Once the cage looks like a complete unit hanging from your body, it's time to lock it!
The type of lock you select will depend on what you want to achieve and how you engage in this play. The most common types of locks include:
- Plastic, disposable locks.
- Metal, reusable locks.
Plastic, disposable locks are essentially small zip ties. They loop around the locking area and tighten. To remove them, you need to cut the zip tie. Most of these disposable locks have numbers to ensure consistency and make it difficult to cheat. The wearer of the chastity device sends a photo of the number on the lock to their partner, and any change in the number indicates potential cheating. These locks need to be replaced (since you'll go through them!), but they are lightweight and easy to use. You can't misplace the key, and you can cut it off with scissors in case of an emergency. People who often travel by plane appreciate the plastic design as it won't trigger metal detectors.
Metal, reusable locks are miniature versions of the padlocks used to secure lockers. They pass through the locking area, and the U-shaped top is pressed firmly into the locking base to "lock" the cage. This type of lock won't open until you use the key (or bolt cutters).
These locks can be used again, so you only need to purchase them once. Many enthusiasts of chastity enjoy the aesthetic of a keyholder wearing the metal key around their neck. However, these locks are heavier and might produce a clanging noise against the cage during activities that involve movement (like exercising). They also require the key to unlock, which can be problematic if the key goes missing. In such cases, you would need bolt cutters or a locksmith, which could be a worst-case scenario.
Your choice of lock will depend on your personal preference. I tend to lean towards metal, reusable locks, but we've also experimented with plastic locks for some variety. I find plastic locks useful when the cage feels uncomfortable; they allow for easy removal if there's pinching or circulation issues, especially during long work days. Some chastity devices, like the Bluetooth Electro-Shock Chastity Cage, only allow their proprietary built-in lock. While this can simplify the appearance and wearing of the cage, it might mean that disposable plastic locks are not an option. Some people see this as a reasonable compromise.